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July 14, 2013

Well, that escalated quickly

I am trying to reach out and find moms to become friends with. If you have ever tried this then you know it can be difficult. Obviously, one doesn't want to be friends or expose their kids to just anyone and that's the hard part. I started a group on Facebook. Bad idea. Very bad idea.

Things seemed well at first I had a few ladies I was looking forward to setting a playdate up with, and then more people were added, and then a few more. Suddenly my group was full of people who didn't fit in with the original group or it's ideals. Problem. How to get out with out being a "bad guy". I left and turned it over to someone else. I started a new group and asked on a parenting page if anyone would like to join and gave some basic guidelines....bad idea. Apparently, if you have any sort of idea or guideline for the moms you want to be around and have a group with you are a judgemental, discriminating momster...yes momster. As of now my daughter and husband are cursed, wished ill and I am the like and more.

On the positive note, the old group has blocked me and are happily talking about me in total secrecy. They have a lot to talk about, I mean, they knew me via Facebook for 48 hours. Glad I could bring a group of like minded girls together that were nothing like me and my family.

Also, my new group has a few members already and has rules and guidelines to prevent this from happening again. These few women are appreciative of the guidelines so we are a group of similar but different women and feel that our kids are safe and we are too.

Let's see how fast this thing runs along.

I'm on the fast track to crazyland. Do you want to come?

July 13, 2013

Amazing Diaper Safe Detergent Tutorial

Laundry Detergent

This is safe for cloth diapers, and awesome on regular laundry. It will cost around 30$ and last about a year. 1-2 tbs per load for softened water, and 2-3 per load for hard water.

Ingredients:
  • 1 76oz box 20 mule borax
  • 2 4lb boxes of baking soda
  • 1 box soda wash
  • 3 bar or 15oz of Dr. Bronner's castile bar soap, zote, or kirk soap
  • 3lbs Oxyclean
  • 1/2 regular sized bottle of Purex scent booster crystals.
  • 5 gallon bucket with lid
  • small jar/canister for easy use amount.
Directions:
  • Grate the soap like cheese
  • Mix everything together in the bucket well
  • Transfer some to a smaller container for easy use
  • Enjoy!

Cloth Diapering 411 Continued

Well now that I have explained the types of cloth diapers I will explain the start-up, cleaning, and tips.

Start-up:

This is where the money comes out, but hey, you can't make an omlette without cracking some eggs, right? This is a personal preference. I am going to tell you what you will need to get through one day of cloth diapering in each style and having to do the wash each night. Multiply these number for each day you want to go without washing up to three days.

Prefolds and covers:

4 covers
12 prefolds
2 clips, bongos, or enough pins that you have an extra

Fitted and covers:

4 covers
12 fitteds
no clips, pins, or bongos needed.

Pockets:

12 inserts
12 covers

All-In-One:

12 diapers

Hybrids:

4 covers
12 inserts

Other must haves: diaper pail, pail liner, wet bags for holding soild diapers/insert/etc when out and about, diaper friendly detergent.

Simple right. right. Until you pass out from the upfront cost, but remember you will save tons more over the course of diapering. I spent about 200$

Things to think about:

If you have a heavy wetter you will probably want to purchase extra inserts for night or a different style. the best style for a heavy wetter over night is a good fitted diaper with a cover. This is like Fort Knox for leakproofing.
You can mix and match styles and brands to get going.
Cloth diapers have an extremely high resale value. a 25 dollar diaper after a year of use will still be worth 16-20 dollars.
Don't want to buy new for a test run? buy used, try ebay, craigslist, and diaper swaps.

Cleaning:

Honest, it isn't that bad or hard. It is a load of laundry not a marathon.
Pee diapers just go straight in the pail. All done with those for now. Poopy diapers...you must remove the majority of the solids and flush that down the toilet. It isn't too bad. Most of the time it just comes off with a shake. Then the diaper or insert goes in the wash. Covers do not have to be put in the diaper pail unless it has poo on it, but if they were used during the day the must be washed at the end of the day.
Washing them. There is a huge long process the other pages tell you. I'm giving you the truth. If you wash these puppies daily a presoak is not needed. Toss them in. Set the temp to Hot/cold and the wash to regular. Add your detergent (NO SOFTENER!!!) and press go. Take the inserts, prefolds, and fitted out put in dryer and dry without a dryer sheet. Covers and all-in-ones must line/air dry or you will ruin the fabric. You must use a cloth diaper safe detergent or you will ruin the absorbency! Here is a list of safe detergents. Softeners and dryer sheets are never safe. You can use dryer balls though. These are wool balls, tennis balls work great, that beat the soft into them.

I am posting a homemade detergent recipe that is awesome for regular clothes, diaper safe, smells awesome, and is 30$ for a years supply pending your laundry amounts.

Tips:
  • You must prewash everything minimum of three times to prime them. The brand will tell you if you need more. This makes them absorb better. If you didn't prewash you will be sorry because you'll be in leak city.
  • If you prewashed and are getting leaks check the fit. Are the legs tight enough and the waist? adjust if not. Point little boys penises down not up.
  • If you are leaking overnight add another insert, try bamboo, or switch to fitteds for night time.

The 411 on Cloth Diapers.

Cloth diapering seems to be intimidating to get started with. I know when I decided to make the switch I was overwhelmed with the terminology, choices, and what seemed like complicated care issues. I'm going to make a multi-post diaper 411 to help get you started.

Why should you switch to cloth? That answer depends on who you are.
  • Some people are very eco conscious and switch because it is better for the environment because you are not filling up landfills with diapers that don't degrade. Also, you are not tempted to throw human waste in the trash, which is illegal, you're not supposed to do it with disposables either, and pollutes waterways with run off.
  • Some people have babies with very sensitive skin and switch because cloth diapers are so much nicer on baby. Rarely does a baby get diaper rash with cloth diapers. You can also purchase all organic cloth options. Whether or not your baby tolerate disposables or not you should want the best for baby's skin and rash prevention.
  • Some people do it to save money. If you use pocket diapers and have enough to wash every two days you will save over 2,000$ during the diapering years if you currently use a generic or bulk purchased diaper from a club store. You will save even more switching from a premium diaper brand or only buying enough to wash everyday.
  • Some people do it because the diapers are so cute and stylish. Plus, cloth diapering is becoming trendy. The image conscious do cloth diaper just for the look or pride in doing so.
No matter the reason or combination of reasons you have for looking into cloth diapering there is a vast confusing world out there when you start. Often, you won't be as lucky as I am to have a store that educates and sells all types of cloth diapers, so you will be ordering alone online. The more prepared you are the better your experience. Cloth diapering does have a learning curve, but it is fast and virtually painless. I promise.

First thing to do when cloth diapering is to decide on a style. There are various ways to do this and each way has it's pros, cons, and costs. I will list all of these.

Prefolds and Covers:

What it is: Prefolds and covers are what will probably come to mind for your parents and possibly
                   what you will think of. These have come a long way from safety pins and rubber covers.
                   For this you need three things...prefolds, clips/grips, and covers. The prefold is put on the
                   baby and clipped into place. This looks like the "old school" cloth diapers. Then a
                   waterproof cover is put over this. There are many materials you can get for the prefold
                  such as cotton, wool, and bamboo or a mix of them. Each has a different cost and
                   absorbency.
Pros:          With this method you can have way more prefolds than covers because if poo doesn't
                   get on the cover you can continue to use for the day. Meaning less to wash.
                   This is the cheapest option for cloth diapering.
Cons:        You will have to get the prefold on properly and clip in place. This is hard to do on a
                   wriggling baby. Often with this in the learning phase leaks occur.
                  This is the most bulky option.

Fitteds with Covers:

What it is: This is very similar to prefolds. A fitted diaper is an all cloth diaper that looks just like a
                    like a regular diaper. You put this on baby just like you would any diaper. Then cover
                    with a waterproof cover. This is the next step in price. You again will find a vast material
                    selection.
Pros:          Very very absorbent. I use this method for overnight because my daughter is a heavy
                    wetter. Easier to get on than prefolds.
                   Once again the cover doesn't have to be washed every change unless it gets poo on it.
Cons:         You still have two separate pieces to get on a wiggly baby. If you don't get the cover
                    over all the fitted you get leak through from the fitted touching clothes. This is still very
                    bulky.

Pocket Diapers:

What it is: This option is moderately priced. With this you have a two layer cover. the outside layer
                    is waterproof, and the inside layer is moisture wicking and soft. The inner material is
                   often microfiber but can be made of mesh, bamboo, hemp, and cotton. These two layers
                    make a pocket. In this pocket you put an insert. The insert is like a maxi-pad. It soaks up
                   all the wetness and keeps baby feeling dry. The inserts come in different sizes, materials,
                   and absorbenciess.
Pros:          This is a very popular option. You can just stick in the inserts before hand and put on the
                   diaper. Just like a disposable. While more expensive than prefolds and fitteds it is still
                   budget friendly. There is a decrease in learning curve leaks. You can customize the
                   absorbency by layering pads. This is less bulky than the other options. For grandparents,
                   friends, and sitters this is a great easy option because you can have stuff diaper ready for
                   them just like disposables.
Cons:        You still have two pieces to wash and you have to wash both every single use whether it is
                  just pee or not. The cost may put people off from starting with this style.

All-in-one Diapers:

What it is: This is the most user friendly option, and the most expensive. This diaper is one whole kit
                   kit and caboodle. just like a disposable you just put it on. They are waterproof outside and
                    have the absorbent liners sew in.
Pros:          Obviously the easiest for you and other caregivers. Almost no learning curve except
                   for fitting certain styles. They come in all kinds of materials like the rest. Only once
                   piece to track.
Cons:         Very expensive. You have to have a large quantity on hand because drying takes a long
                   time. These are the hardest to wash and keep clean. Each diaper needs washed each time
                    it is used. Can get bulky.

Hybrid Diapers:

What it is: This is an advanced category of diaper. These tend to be more pricey than pockets but
                    less than all-in-ones. With these you get the convenience of prefolds and fitted since you
                    don't have to wash the cover every time and the easy of pocket inserts since you don't
                    to deal with putting two things on. You simple snap in an insert when it is solid you snap
                    it out and snap in a new one. The cover doesn't need changed if it doesn't have poo on it.
                    This is the diaper style I personally use.
Pros:           No need to was the cover every use so you don't have to buy tons of them. Many types
                    of materials and absorbencies are available. Customize the absorbency by layering
                    inserts. Not very bulky.
Cons:          Can get expensive. Sometimes hard to find. There are a limited number of brands that
                    offer this style. Has a moderate learning curve.

Here is the link to the brand I use and love, Softbums. I use the Omni style because it has a pocket so I can set it up for grandparents and sitters to use without any further instruction or complication. They take it off and put on a whole new one like a disposable, but I get to use it like a hybrid and save some washing and buying tons of covers. Plus with their special One Size system I get an easy completely custom fit that the snaps on there brands just simply cannot do. I'm a sucker for a bargain and they sell packages that give you a discount!

So there you have it. The different types of cloth diaper systems in simple terms. Before diving into how much to buy, care, and tips, there is one more thing to talk about. Fits, and there are special terms to learn...

One Size; This is a diaper that general fits 5 to 40 pounds. there are snaps, elastics, or vecros that change the waist and length of these diapers. This allows you to use the same covers/shells the whole time. The cost more up front but save you in the long run. These tend to be fickle about fitting well and often need adjusting to prevent leaks, but not so much that is difficult. As your baby grows you adjust to fit his or her body. abbreviate OS.

Single size, or Regular: Just like disposable diaper these are covers, fitteds, and shells that fit one size. These are cheap up front but end up costing more in the long run because you will have to buy all new sets as baby grows. These don't have a learning curve for fitting. Either they will or won't fit.

I use one size covers myself because I am looking at long term savings.

The next post will cover what you need to start for each style of diaper if you want to wash daily, care, and tips. I hope this has given you a better idea of what is out there for your diapering needs.

July 12, 2013

Oh, little Turtlebug, You make me feel so Warm?

A couple days ago I decided I was going to add just a little more work to being a mom. I switched to cloth diapers. I went to our local cloth diaper shop with our debit card and Turtlebug. I figured I'd go and be out pretty quick. Well, a few hours and a bit over 100$ later I left feeling less that confident but pretty stylish and trendy with my brand new pricey microfiber butt cuddlers. Don't mind my kid's current disposable is probably deteriorating from being peed in for a couple hours in the stroller....I got this.

I returned home and showed my husband my "stash". That's what you call your diaper supply, you know, if you're cool. He was busy installing new windows, which is a story for tomorrow...Oh, boy. He didn't seem interested in learning all the in's and out's that I most likely still have wrong. I decided to wash my diapers and inserts. Which was a whole new project! You can't use just ANY detergent for these puppies it has to be free of anything the eco wonder bunny didn't make with his magic natural wand. So I found a wonderful detergent recipe I'm in love with that doesn't cost an arm and a leg. I will post that later. I promise. So off to the store again.."really is the 60 bucks I'm going to save worth this?" is all I could think. Anyway made the soap. Washed the diapers. Went to bed.

Yesterday I started using them. I was in love. Things were awesome...mind you turtlebug did her dirty work in a disposable in the morning before I started the cloth. Night time came and I doubled up on inserts to keep her dry...

GOOD MORNING MOMMY IT IS 6 AM AND TIME TO PLAY!!!!
I went to get her and do the morning diaper change, bottle and back to bed. I pick up my screaming starving daughter only to become wet. Not like the kind of wet you get when holding them in a bath towel right out of the tub, but the OMG you did not just pee directly on me kind of wet. I put her on her changing pad to discover that she was drenched in pee, I was drenched in her pee, and well, apparently I have what is know as a heavy nighttime pee-er. Joy. My kid eats like a horse, and pees like one as well. So I strip her, clean her, and myself. Continue the process and go back to sleep knowing I'll be in the diaper store again...Hi nice eco friendly mommy, It's me the crazy lady...again.

I was promised what I was given today works on a 2.5year old over night...we will see.

Anyway, little did I know turtlebug had more warm feelings for me. We went to the grocery store this afternoon. No big deal. She was a bit wiggly in the cart but I figured she was mad at me for not feeding her as I shopped, which I tend to do just to eliminate the chance she could scream in our small town store and I would have to contend with glares, stares, and scoffs...oh my! We shopped with out incident. As I got her out of the cart she felt wet on the outside so I figure oh nice, more leaks well we are two minutes from home I'll deal with it at home. Once safely in our drive way with our crazy creepy neighbor out of sight, I took her out. I heard a plushy plop on our drive assuming it was her dinosaur I went to get it. This is where things really get warm and cozy. There was my 30$ cloth diaper on the ground, and even more fresh hot pee soaking into my third shirt of the day. I guess when they say to check and be sure the Velcro is secure they were being serious, it is possible to mess up Velcro.

So that is the first 24 hrs of cloths diapers. They really give me a warm squishy feeling so far.

 I hear the whistle, next stop crazyland.

Hi, My name is Kalie, and I am a mom.

Well, I always said I was going to do this. I'm not sure why I pick the day I start a mommies group, switch to cloth diapers, and have my daughters first teeth coming in to do so, but hey, I'm a mom I can just grow another arm, create more time, and deal with one more thing. A shower isn't necessary, right?

First, thank you for finding me! I don't know who you are, where you are from, and why you found me, but I am sure glad I'm not typing to hear the keys clicking. I really hope you stick with me and I can share my dyi's, recipes, thoughts, and adventures as a first time mommy with you!

Second, Let me tell you a bit about me. I am a 25 year old mom of an 8 month old, and wife to my wonderful husband. I love to cook, craft, sew, and budget (<----not really but I feel like I should get gold stars when I find a way to save more money). I have been a stay at home mom/wife for a little over a year. I thought it would be fun, easy, and totally amazing. HAH! I was as oblivious as my childless friends still are. Oh those were the days. I'm not saying I don't love it. I'm saying that it is hard. Very hard. I often say that if people knew they would never take this job not for any money in the world. In fact, I was one that didn't know and I willing, heck, even forced my way on the this run away train on the fast track to crazyland. So buckle up your five-point, rear facing to 40lb or two years, side impact tested, front adjust, double removable cup holder, and super cute fashion printed car seat because I'm taking you with me!